While it's hardly fair to describe the girls in Pattaya as being unique in that they are mostly Thai girls, it can be fairly said that there is a uniqueness about them that is challenging to define.
To truly get a handle on what the girls in Pattaya are really about, it's necessary to carry out some research into the background and culture of these delectable creatures to fully comprehend why they do the things they do, and to be able to deal with the oft times tragic and other times hilarious behavior they often display.
If you are new to or are planning your first trip to Thailand, be well advised to do bit of digging around for at least some information on the girls in Pattaya and in Thailand overall before you take the plunge.
My memory takes me back to my first trip to Thailand ten years ago, as an incompetent, bumbling and extremely naïve "Pattaya Virgin."
I was the typical middle aged "farang" (foreigner) who was just surfacing after a particularly harrowing and debilitating break up with my western wife of fifteen years. I guess I was seeking some sort of consolation and understanding in the arms of whoever was willing to listen.
While there are many of the girls in Pattaya who are more than capable of providing me with what I sought, my lack of education about these beautiful and at times little she demons, almost had me plunging headlong back into the murky pit of despair I was trying so hard to climb out of.
Fortunately I was traveling with a couple of "Pattaya Wise" friends who were well versed in the wiles of the bar girls in Pattaya and who were just able to grab my heels in time before I started falling hopelessly in love with almost every bar girl in Pattaya my hungry, ogling and somewhat lustful gaze fell upon.
Before venturing into Thailand it's imperative to be aware that Thailand is a nation whose culture is vastly different from that of the West. It is for ninety percent of the populace, steeped in Tao Buddhism and many things we of the west might consider strange or abhorrent are not only accepted in Thailand but are indeed the norm.
It's also important to remember that the lives led by the bar girls in Pattaya are a far cry from the ideals set down by traditional Thai culture and are far more strict than those of Christianity.
The girls in Pattaya live their lives almost totally absorbed in their culture and traditional family values. Buddhism to them is not a religion, but rather a way of life. However it's not uncommon for a girl to bend the rules a little in the constant battle to survive within a society lacking in any from of social security hand outs such as welfare and the dole etc.
With this in mind, and while not considering herself a lady of ill repute, it's quite acceptable for a girl in Pattaya to "go with" the patrons of the bar she works in for a limited period (short time) or for the night (long time) for a bout of sensual and sexual pleasure found hard to rival worldwide in an effort to make enough money to support her family. The majority of the girls are well experienced in satisfying the needs of the customer and those that are only new to the game are quickly instructed by the other more senior girls or the Mama San who is herself usually one of the ex-bar girls in Pattaya.
With prostitution being strictly prohibited in Thailand the "donation" made to the bar girls in Pattaya, is usually predetermined before leaving the place of her employment. Most of the girls are fiercely loyal to "their" bar (while the money is there) treating it and her fellow bar girls in Pattaya more like family and a home away from home rather than a place of employment.
The "customer" she goes with will need to pay the bar what's known as a "bar fine" which is a small pre-set figure for the individual bar...before leaving with his new found love. Go-go bars have a higher bar fine because they themselves tend to pay the girls more to perform pole dancing "etc". on a raised platform, most times scantily dressed if indeed dressed at all.
This money pays for her freedom from the bar for the duration of the customer's whim. You should be aware also, that if you should require the company of your bar girl/girls in Pattaya, for an additional night or two, you will need to pay the bar fine for each night she is absent from the bar. This is strictly adhered to. If she herself requires an evening off for no legitimate reason, she will then need to pay her own bar fine as she will also have to do if you refuse to pay it.
The number of bar fines for the working month is recorded for each individual bar girl in Pattaya and are tallied up at the end of the working month. She then receives a small percentage of the total. It's not uncommon for a particularly attractive or alluring girl to amass as many as 25 to 30 bar fines for the month during the high season.
It should be noted here that tips are a communal thing and that unless the tip is placed directly in the hand of the girl it's intended for, the tips are shared by all the girls in the bar sometimes including the mama san.
You shouldn't be at all surprised to learn that the bar girl in Pattaya of your dreams could well have at least one child to a Thai man and indeed many even have a Thai husband or boyfriend waiting for them at home.
Traditionally in Thailand it is the responsibility of the girls of the family to support their parents. The girls in Pattaya's parents will in most cases live somewhere in a remote village where more often than not, they will be raising the girls child or children. At the end of each month, she will send most of her money to her parents who in turn will pay for the child's or children's upbringing and education.
While it's very easy to fall hopelessly in love with the girls in Pattaya, most men who do...find it far easier to take the girl out of the bar than to take the bar out of the girl.
Many men who take a Thai girl out of Thailand find the same principle applies and research indicates that the most successful relationships that exist between the girls in Pattaya or in Thailand generally, and foreigners are the ones where the foreigner lives in Thailand with his Thai wife or partner.
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